Battling the exhaustion and isolation of being a home caregiver.
(New York, United States)
I moved my mother into my home two years ago, she turns 87 tomorrow and suffers from dementia. I am her caregiver 24/7/360 - MAYBE getting 5 days of a year - one day here and there - from one of my sisters.
I have 6 sisters and can never get anyone to take out mother to give me a break, or even come stay with her so I can go grocery shopping or run errands.
I am exhausted.
I have reached out and do have a couple of volunteers what give me a few hours a week for errand running, and I hire a sitter for 6 - 8 hours a week so I can have a few hours of uninterrupted work time.
I work from home and I suffer from fibromyalgia (chronic pain and fatigue), so care of mom around the clock is becoming more than I can handle.
In two months I am calling a meeting of my sisters and am going to threaten to call Uncle if someone(s) can not stop helping me.
In my heart I am fairly confident (and fearful) they will not as they refused all of my requests so far.
I don't think I will have the heart to place her if they won't help. I am willing to do 80% alone - I am so frustrated that between 6 of them they can not do 20%.