As a caregiver, you can have a closer relationship to death than most people. You might even experience losses one after another, before you have time to fully process the first loss. This can lead to something called cumulative loss—also known as bereavement overload.
If you find yourself experiencing multiple losses in quick succession, it’s important to take care of yourself and process your emotions fully. To help you out, we’ve outlined several ways to recognize bereavement overload and process your grief.
While anyone is capable of experiencing cumulative grief, there are factors which put you more at risk. For example, if you’ve always struggled with expressing yourself emotionally, this could elongate your grieving process, increasing the odds that you experience cumulative grief.
Additionally, when you don’t have support from friends or family, it can make it more difficult to fully accept your loss. After all, when you lose someone, it helps to have an emotional support system where you can vent your feelings and lean on others. Just feeling like you’re being heard goes a long way toward healing your wounds.
In this way, it helps to practice healthy communication habits while building a strong emotional support system around you as a caregiver. It’s particularly helpful if you could talk to other caregivers about the loss you experience, since they likely understand—to an extent—the pain you feel.
When you experience bereavement overload, there is a variety of common side effects, including (but not limited to):
If you’re feeling all of these side effects after experiencing consecutive loss, you may be experiencing bereavement overload. Just know that these feelings are natural and will lessen with the passing of time.
Coping with grief doesn’t come easy for everyone. If you’re feeling overwhelmed by your loss, you might feel like shutting down or ignoring your feelings. While this is a natural response, there are other ways you can work toward processing your loss, including:
As a caregiver, it can be painful to experience the loss of multiple patients in close succession. It can feel both overwhelming and as though it’s never going to end. But when you adopt healthy coping mechanisms and prioritize self-care, you can make progress toward fully processing your grief.
For more information about bereavement overload, check out the infographic by RetireGuide below.
Thank you Rhett Rivera for contributing this article.